Growing up with autism, I often found myself missing out on experiences that other children my age were enjoying. Whether it was being kept from going on a big slide at the pool or being excluded from school trips, I constantly felt like my autonomy was being taken away from me.
As I transitioned into adulthood, I hoped that things would change, but the same pattern of exclusion continued in different forms. At work, I was never given the opportunity to take on challenging projects or responsibilities because there was a prevailing assumption that I couldn’t handle them.
Even in my personal life, I encountered similar challenges. Friends would decide for me that I wouldn’t enjoy certain events or activities without even asking for my input. This constant undermining of my abilities only served to erode my confidence and sense of self-worth.
The lack of agency and respect given to autistic individuals can have serious consequences, leading us to push ourselves to dangerous extremes just to prove our capabilities. From overworking to toxic relationships, I have seen firsthand the damaging effects of being constantly underestimated and undervalued.
It’s time for a shift in mindset. Instead of assuming what we can or cannot handle, neurotypical individuals should start asking us directly. We deserve to be seen for our strengths, skills, and unique perspectives, rather than being defined by our diagnosis.
I dream of a world where I am asked if I want to be involved in something, rather than being doubted or dismissed. I have developed coping mechanisms and strategies to navigate stressful situations, and I am more than capable of making my own decisions.
